Why grounding is important for a highly sensitive person
The most important kind of self care for the highly sensitive is grounding.
Grounding is the act of grounding yourself physically and mentally through one or more of your senses.
The best way is through nature.
Sitting or standing barefoot in the grass or in a stream of running water. Feeling the soft grass or gentle current through your feet. Letting all the stress and emotions from the day and those around you empty out through your feet.
Ways to ground yourself
- Place your feet or hands in water – room temperature or warm
- Light a candle of find something with a scent that is calming to you and focus on it
- Pick up something soft, warm or smooth and hold it in your hands, feel it with your finger tips
- Stand barefoot in the grass
- Drink room temperature or cool water
- Run something silky through your fingers
- Turn down the lights or turn them off completely and take a deep breath
- Turn off noises, leave to an empty room and breathe
- Find a sound that is comforting – like bird song or water dripping, and focus on it
- Stand outdoors and turn your face towards the sun and close your eyes
- Use your taste buds – chew gum, drink tea with honey etc
General Self Care for the Highly Sensitive Person
- Start a night time routine – Turn off electronics, turn down the lights to a subtle glow (try a salt lamp!) two hours before bed. Try reading, journaling, drinking a bedtime tea, or meditation.
- Start a morning routine – Try a gentle alarm clock, wake up a little earlier (bit by bit each day) to have time to enjoy a coffee/tea, to be able to journal or read. Anything to start the day less hectic and stressed.
- Create a self care space! Keeping everything you need at hand for when the world seems overwhelming makes it easier to care for yourself and bring the over stimulation back down.
- Know your triggers – avoid them when you can – plan for self care afterwards if you can’t.
- Have an escape strategy – for those triggers you can’t avoid, learn your time limits and have an excuse. Ask your friend or hubby to have a “rescue” call ready.
- Tell those around you. From family members and friends, to partners and those you work with. Being a highly sensitive person is a good thing. The more people around you who know, the easier it is for them to understand when you need quiet. Or if you need a scent free work space.
- Take five at work. Smokers often get those few extra minutes or breaks. Take yours too. Talk to your boss – let them know sometimes you need a five minute break to decompress. If you’re worried about talking to your boss about it – use the bathroom. No one can tell you not to use it. Take an extra five minutes, head to the bathroom and take a breather.
Carry a self care kit with you!
- This makes those five minutes at work easier or when you need to slip away at family gatherings or when out in public. Carry a small kit of a journal, maybe an essential oil and bracelet or mints.
- Baths! After any over stimulation or stressful day, baths are the best way to let it all out. Feel the water over your skin, let the tension out and focus on releasing it all into the water.
- Declutter and clean. A messy space is the worst thing for a highly sensitive person. Self care is taking care of responsibilities too! You’ll thank yourself later.
Being a child and being a highly sensitive person is one of the hardest things to face in life.
You are already learning and facing things for the first time. New emotions, new pain, new experiences. Add in being unable to verbally express that all of this is a lot more than the average person faces. That sometime, you just can’t explain why you feel some way.
- Have a safe space and person to talk to – Whether it’s a parent, a teacher, a sibling or counselor. If they’re not comfortable talking about it out loud (that was me!) Try journaling. Have a dedicated journal somewhere where they and you have access. Have them write their problems, anything that makes them uncomfortable etc in it. Let them know it is their way to communicate with you. Read it every day (morning or night when they’re asleep) find ways to help them non verbally or find comfortable ways to approach them.
- Make their room their safe space. Lower lighting, a sensory area, etc. Keep self care items close at hand.
- Show them what self care is! Spend time together participating in self care. Help them find the care that works for them.
- Let their friends, other parents and teachers know. Understanding from others means less “unwanted” behaviour.
- Be understanding! They’re not “just sensitive” and IT IS NOT A BAD THING. Do not judge or ridicule them for being sensitive. Be patient with them. If you can’t WALK AWAY, let them know you need time to process. Ask a spouse or relative to help or take over for the moment. If you’re mean about it, they will never talk to you about it, or learn to cope in healthy ways.
Not sure if you’re a highly sensitive person? Check out >here< Even if you aren’t, self care is for everyone! These tips and tricks can help an HSP or any person looking for some relief from the stress of the day!